Arguing with your parents is totally natural for teens. While this is not generally a pleasant , it is normal and it will most likely pass. In the meantime, remember to argue fairly, argue respectfully and argue only when needed. It might be hard to stay in control while arguing with parents, but it will certainly keep your relationship stronger than it would be otherwise.
Argue Fairly:
If you must argue with them, argue fairly by:
1. Allowing each person involved in the argument to speak their mind.
2. Refusing to interrupt others when they are speaking.
3. Refusing to draw others in solely for support if they do not have a place in the argument.
4. Sticking only to the topic at hand. Bringing up past hurts or issues will not help anyone move forward.
5. Suggesting compromises that will show your parents that you have thought about the issue and are trying to sort things for yourself.
Argue Respectfully
During arguments, be respectful by:
1. Keeping your voice lowered at all timeS and refusing to shout.
2. Sitting still and staying calm.
3. Refusing to engage in angry actions such as ripping, kicking, throwing or hitting anything.
4. Rationally explaining the reasons for your opinions and making a case for your side of the story.
5. Staying until a solution has been worked out. Stalking away and slamming doors doesn’t help make any point other than that you are immature.
Argue Only When Needed
No one likes to argue, and the parents of teens can be especially weary of it.
Remember, out of control arguments don’t serve anyone well. Remain calm, speak rationally and defend your points. Before arguing with your parents, decide what type of teen you want to be and what compromises you are willing to make in order to achieve your goals. You never know, you might just avoid an argument all together.
